Death - No one is Immune
It is said the death is the great leveller. That no matter who you are, rich or poor, believer or unbeliever, everyone must pass through the narrow gate. And thus it is with spiritualists and being a spiritualist will not lessen the sting of your own passing or the loss of someone dear to you. One might conclude that foreknowledge of the spirit-world might make things easier and in many ways it does and in many other ways it does not.
Back in the day, for example, in the 1950’s before the internet, email, inexpensive flights, mobile phones and all the modern conveniences that we take for granted. For ordinary people, international communication consisted of letters or very expensive telephone calls that one would have to arrange in advance with an operator. Back then if a family member moved to Australia, one might grieve as if they were dying. The likelihood of seeing them was next to zero as the expense was so high. And as for speaking to them, one would have to rely on letters and phone calls that would barley give a glimpse of their lives.
But why grieve? They are just in Australia. They are safe and happy.
But why grieve? They are just in the spirit-world. They are safe and happy. … And you may see them again.
Spiritual mediums, in telecommunications terms, may be the equivalent of an ontological operator, but such spirit communication is insufficient to allay grief, fear, doubt and much more besides. One might conclude that a spiritualist or spiritual medium might know things for certain, but the human heart does not work on certainties.
None of us are immune. We all will or have experienced significant loss and will eventually pass beyond the veil. Be at piece with his and accept your own grief as well as the grief of others. It is part of being a human and a spiritualist. Convincing oneself otherwise is merely a psychological defence, a rationalisation. However, life is what it is and one must do what one must do. And therein lies the rub. One cannot allow oneself, especially as a spiritual medium to become buried under the weight of loss and grief. Whilst one must mot dismiss it, there is a need not to get stuck and instead process it.
Spiritual Mediums, help others with their grief and their ability to process it and not get stuck.
June 2026
The man in the three pictures is Carlos Viktor, Suzanne’s husband. As many are aware, he has Metastatic Prostate Cancer, that is, stage 4 terminal cancer. In 2025, after months of pain and becoming bedbound followed by a month in hospital over December he was diagnosed with terminal cancer. His fate sealed, he then, with the support of Suzanne, proceeded to suffer through five months of harsh chemotherapy along with hormone therapy, in order to exchange an amount of time and suffering for a chance at a semi-normal existence before having to walk the final path. He lost his hair, suffered poly-neuropathy, could not walk properly, became emotionally unstable, was humbled and lost his spark for life. And Suzanne was there for all of it, both as witness and participant.
I am not telling you this for sympathy, but instead to remind you that Suzanne, like you, is a real person, living a real life. There is a need for compassion and understanding towards your own pain and suffering and the pain and suffering of others. Not indulgence, or pity, but a true compassion born out of acceptance and understanding. You are no less worthy than the people you serve and they are no less worthy than you. And in relation to others we display and discover our true selves.
Suzanne Loves her husband, and in 2025, she lost him for the first time. Previously, a very capable person. He became much less than he was, a shadow of himself, consumed by pain, disability and medication. And on top of that, he almost died, twice. Now that he is stabilised … for now … and he is returning to much of his old self, Suzanne and Carlos Viktor are truly grateful to God, but, Suzanne knows that she will loose him again one final time. This is something she must carry as the cost of Loving another person.
Given that loss and pain are ultimately the measure of the depth of your relationships. Would you choose not to suffer? Would you choose to protect yourself rather than diving into a friendship or a partnership?
